Looking At the World through the Eyes of Someone Else

Looking At the World through the Eyes of Someone Else

Giving, receiving, rejoicing and being thankful are just a select few of the tasks and emotions that come with the holiday season. For many the holiday season is a time for family and fun but for others it is a time that brings stress. Whether you are preparing for the holiday season physically with deciding what food you will have and who will be coming or if you are preparing for the holiday season mentally and emotionally, it is a task that brings great pressure. When Christmas begins to peek around the corner, excitement starts to fill the air.

Kids begin talking about what they will ask for, adults talking about seeing long lost relatives and often we hear, “what can I buy?” For the ones coping with Mental Health disabilities, these are the individuals we hear saying, “Do I have to leave the house?” The holidays bring chaos to the outside world and we stand and watch from the inside looking out at it all taking place around us but for those who have the barrier of anxiety, depression and other mental health related disorders, chaos takes place on the inside. Much like standing on the outside of the house and looking in through the window. You can see the people inside and technically there is only a few feet between you and them but the window causes a “disconnect” between you and the other people and you begin to feel unheard or overwhelmed. Like you are screaming from the inside, beating to get out, but no one can hear your thoughts, the anxiety sets in and you begin to feel trapped. Or as if you are standing in a busy roadway but there is no noise.

You watch the movement but cannot hear their sounds. Complete and utter chaos breaks out in the mind. For individuals who have thrown substance abuse into the mix of things, this is the time when using would make sense. While looking for comfort in a world of chaos, anxiety and stress, created by the holidays; why not turn to the one place that always brings comfort and numbness to situations that make one uncomfortable, their drug of choice. Substance abuse substitutes for the family and begins to take the place of warm bodies and the need for interaction with other people. Family starts to disappear. So while some are enjoying the idea that the holidays will soon be here as they prepare the menus, buy the gifts and invite the people; some are merely hoping their phone is not the one that rings with your invitation on the other end.

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While you prepare to go about your holidays, whether you are dealing with mental health disabilities or substance abuse; those who are battling full force with their shield and sword at hand keep these tips in mind when doing your mental preparation.

  1. Safe/Quiet Place – separate yourself from the crowded family room and unwind, calm down and spend a few quiet moments for yourself to re-focus. Before the day arrives be sure you know a safe and quiet place you can go to capture a few moments of peace. (ex: bathroom, bedroom or outside).
  2. Rituals – Do not overindulge in the free spirit and free time of the holidays. While enjoying some time off, a break, and time with your family, make the effort to stick to your daily rituals that are crucial to your continued sobriety and winning battle against substance abuse or mental health disabilities. (ex: AA/NA meetings, prayer time, mediation, sleep schedule).
  3. Limits/Saying NO – Limit yourself on the amount of responsibility you agree to while preparing for the holiday. Be aware of your limit you have set for yourself and stick to it. Do not be afraid to say, “NO”, if you have already reached the limit of responsibility you have allowed yourself.
  4. Buddy – One rule while in recovery that you learn is; avoid other active substance abuser. If there is someone in your family that you know is active in their addiction, avoid being alone with them. Ask a friend or family member that you trust to be your, “BUDDY”, for that day. They are your source of comfort and words of encouragement if they are needed. Stay close to your buddy throughout the day.

BES Group & Associates/Solutions Plus – Beaumont
H. Fuller, R. Willett, H. Garner, L. Garner

BES Group / Solutions Plus

The BES Group, Inc. has been involved in intervention, prevention, education and treatment of alcohol and other drugs since 1989. Various grants and contracts have been written, awarded and implemented by the organization to provide prevention and treatment services in the Houston and Dallas/Fort Worth areas.

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17 comments

  • Jeffery L. Murry December 15, 2014

    Great job

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    • Jeffery Murry December 16, 2014

      It’s always best to try and look at the world through the eyes of someone else, because it gives you a glimpse into their world, which give you a different perspective on life itself.

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    • Heather Fuller December 18, 2014

      Thank you!!

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  • Laurie Goodman December 16, 2014

    Wonderfully written! Great job!!

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    • Heather Fuller December 18, 2014

      Thank You Sister!

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  • Laurie Goodman December 16, 2014

    Wonderfully written!! Great job!!

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  • Sherry Hays December 16, 2014

    Good Job!

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    • Heather Fuller December 18, 2014

      Thank You Mom!

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  • Laurie Goodman December 16, 2014

    Great job!

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  • Amanda December 16, 2014

    So proud of you for writing this!!! This is such an amazing article! Helping others see passed the glitz and glitter of the holidays.

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    • Heather Fuller December 18, 2014

      Thank Amanda

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    • Heather Fuller December 18, 2014

      Thank you Amanda

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  • Wesley Fuller December 16, 2014

    Way to go Beaumont!!

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  • John Thomas December 16, 2014

    If we try to look at the world through the eyes of someone else, we will get a different perspective on life.

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    • Heather Fuller December 18, 2014

      I agree!! 🙂

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  • Wesley Fuller December 16, 2014

    🙂

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  • Kristen December 16, 2014

    I absolutely love this article !!!!! It’s defiantly an eye opener for those who have family members and loved ones who suffer from addiction.
    Great read and this definitely needs to be spread around for more people to see. I believe it could help a lot of people understand that there’s more to an addiction than just quiting whatever drug someone uses.

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